Living With A Cheater | ||
Every woman at some point in her life have come in contact with a cheater, either from personal experience or from someone that she knows.
Those who have been through the pain of finding out that the person they love dearly, such as a husband or boyfriend has cheated on them can be very devastating.
The normal reaction from most women is to leave the cheater and break up the marriage. Although this article is not condoning the actions of the cheater there is something that should be addressed.
When a man cheats does that mean he does not love you anymore?
The logical thing to think at first is that your boyfriend or husband no longer loves you. In your mind you are asking yourself is there something that you did wrong. Also you may feel that it is the end and that your relationship has been a lie.
It may be easier for a women to rationalize the actions of a cheater if she feels that she is somehow responsible for her partners behavior. Marriage counselors make a living helping husbands and wives to come together with a mutal understanding of love and trust.
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How can you trust someone who has cheated on you? | |
In this time you will feel betrayed by the person you love, and you will wonder if you will ever find it in your heart to forgive this person again. The reality is that depending on how long the two of you have been together you may want to reconsider leaving.
Should you leave the person who hurt you by cheating?
Although you will want to leave and get as far away from this person as you can it is best to try and wait until the dust settles before making any rash decisions. Women who choose to stay with a cheater should not be judged. It is not something that she is proud of but she has her own reasons for doing so.
Is he a good father to your children? Has he treated you well and providing for your financial needs? Money is not everything but a man who is willing to work and provide for his family and is not causing you any physical harm should be given a second or third chance.
Everyone makes mistakes and no one is perfect
This is the time to look into your heart for forgiveness. If you truly love your husband or boyfriend and feel that it is worth sticking it out then you should do it.
I am not recommending that you stay with someone who is cruel and mean to you or verbally abusive or disrespects you. I am talking about the person that you know in your heart is a good person and that they have made this big mistake.
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Not all men who cheat will do it again | |
It may not happen again and it may take tough love from you to keep your man by your side because other women will try to break up your marriage or relationship. That is something that will not change.
So although as they say it takes two to tangle your husband may have been caught in a moment of weakness. It is best not to take all the responsibility for his cheating.
You may feel guilty and think that you should spend more time with your man or that there is something you can do to keep him happy so that he will not stray or sleep with another woman.
The fact of the matter is that men are instinctively going to want to pro-create and it is not something that they consciously think about. Now we know that there is always bad apples in the bunch but the majority of men are not trying to hurt their wives or girlfriends at the time of the affair.
If you are having marital problems or you are on the verge of breaking up in a relationship because the two of you have moved apart emotionally then staying together may not be the best option.
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What about women who stay with a cheater | |
There are women who decide that it is better to forgive than leave. So if a women chooses not to divorce her husband for cheating on her does that make her a lessor person?
I disagree, people should not judge her for her decision. There are plenty of women now in the public eye who have decided that leaving is not the answer. Instead they have decided to work harder on their marriage to make it work.
It could be that the two of you need to practice better communication. Your husband may feel that he is being neglected and this is where you can take an objective view of the situation.
Find time to be together and if necessary renew your vows. Think about the special characteristics that made you want to be with that person in the first place.
There is not right or wrong answer but we do know that no one should stay in a marriage or relationsip that is not helping them grow as a person.
Should a women stay with a cheater for the children?
This is something that is up for debate because I don't think two people should ignore the seriousness of infidelity, The children are at risk of losing one of the parents if the two of you do decide to divorce but it should be something that is weighed very heavily.
The age of the children will play a factor and also the women will have to think about the future of her own status in life.
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Celebrities who have stayed together although one of them cheated | |
In the media we see stories all the time of high profile people who face the sad truth that one of them have been unfaithful in the relationship.
It may not seem important when we see celebrities going through tough times and having problems with fidelity but the truth of the matter is that it has an impact on society as well as the views of mainstream media.
You might say when it comes to celebrities they are all living a fairy tale and that they are not perfectly matched with the right person for them. It can also be said that many of the hookups and couples on the red carpet are only together for publicity. It just is no way to tell but fans and those viewing these tabloids are influenced by what these celebrities are doing.
So if all the women are leaving the men in the relationship because he cheated on her it gives the message that this is what should be done although each of our experiences are not the same. Consider your own circumstance before making a decision to leave. Ask yourself if your marriage is worth saving?
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Staying Together After an Affair | |
If a women chooses to dump her man over cheating because society tells her she should is not a practical approach.
Only you know for sure why you will want to stay in your marriage after your husband has cheated on you.
Not all cheaters deserve to be left behind, some need support, help and for the women to try and build trust again. It is not an easy road but it may be worth the effort.
Some women rely on the man to provide for her and her children and this may be a reason she decides to stay with him instead of leaving.
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What Is Infidelity Trauma? | |
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